I talk with a lot of different people every day, for a lot of different reasons. Aside from being a good listener and offering unbiased advice, my main objective is to keep an impartial, open-minded point of view. This detached perspective has led to many ah-ha moments as I am able to observe situations from a neutral position where emotions don’t take over and cause the ego to cast shadows of doubt.
As a way to shift attitudes from one of victimhood to one of empowerment I often refer to our experiences as a theatrical performance and invite others to sit in the audience to view our “Play Of Life” in order to begin to unravel all of the emotional attachment that can cloud our judgment and create more turmoil in what would otherwise be an amicable situation, poised for insightful guidance. As the observer of life, vs. the reactor, we are given the opportunity to see that life is happening for us, not to us. We become more aware that those we interact with are “actors” in our play and that everyone’s interaction is meant to take part in all of the learning opportunities we experience. From this viewpoint it is impossible to build resentment, harbor jealousy or develop anger toward another person. They are simply there to reflect to us the lessons we need to learn for our soul’s growth.
In this scenario there is no victim and there is no perpetrator. Nothing is taken personally because there is no personal attack when we can see the higher good that comes out in the master plan. Traditionally, all of this information comes with the perspective of time and experience. But as we become more self aware we are able to grasp this understanding from the beginning, avoiding the drama and emotional exhaustion that comes from personalizing the actions of others.
We all react as a circumstance of our conditioning. So if someone says to you, “That’s what you’re wearing today?”, don’t take it as an insult at surface value. What could be underlying that comment could be “I don’t like my body type. I view you as someone who looks good in a crop top and that makes me insecure so I want you to feel as bad as I do about myself.” or “I don’t have the self confidence to wear that because the last time I wore something similar I was body shamed.”
Perspective is everything. If we can make more effort to see life through a universal perspective, and understand the connectedness and meaning in even the most miniscule experience, we will begin to free ourselves from the conventional perspective of a single minded view point that keeps us separated.
